Call it quits-
Being in love is easier than to maintain it as a long-term relationship. A healthy relationship ensures in a happy long journey till the end. Sometimes it might become harder to drag the relationship anymore. That is the moment to choose whether to still hang on or drop the bomb and run. Moreover, the situation can turn worse if one is not aware of the consequences. Read below to avoid all that you can.
Time to press the panic button-
It is always hard to start a break up conversation with your partner, especially with someone you once loved, shared all the tiny things from your life. But, when you decided to press the panic button and make your partner aware that the relationship is no longer going to continue, make sure you have your reasons and let you partner know that you have a made a final decision of breaking up and not going to have a second thought on it. Be firm on your decision.
There are few steps that you need to follow before conveying your decision to your partner. The first one is to ask yourself, WHY? Is it because of a temporary problem that is going on right now in your lives?
Try not to get yourself confused. Clear your mind, make yourself get into your partner’s shoes and think because at the end you must be as honest and determined as you were when you started the relationship.
Make a list of all the possible reasons and solutions which have led you to take such a decision in your life. Also try to give a second thought to your current relationship and question yourself whether there is still a last chance to save from break up. This helps you in freeing your mind to make the right decision.
Try to end the relationship in such a way that no problems would arise in the future again. Feel positive of your decision. Never fumble on your decision. Be ready to answer all possible questions that your partner might poke at you. Plan as to how you might start the break up conversation with your partner.
Be straightforward and convey your decision firmly. Do not let emotions find their way in to your final conversation. Try not to cut off the conversation and leave, instead, try to end the discussion as smooth as you have done it on your first date.
Choose a meeting place-
Choosing the right venue to meet up and discuss the final terms of your break up could be very critical. This helps in avoiding the break up meet turn nasty and ugly. Choose a neutral place when it comes to discuss the break up situation. Either of your houses are not a safe venue for such a conversation. A convenient place to converse is a public park as it is safe, and you can both walk and talk through your breakup with ease. A meet in the park is always considered comfortable to both of you.
KISS- Keep It Short & Simple-
You made your decision of breaking up. So, no turning back on this. Make sure that the conversation stays short and simple. Leave your partner as soon as you end the conversation. Do not give away hints that things can be sorted out in the near future and you both can get back once again. This factor ensures to avoid painful moments to both of you. End it once and for all. Do not take pain in trying to convince your partner about the break up. Stick to your points. Try not to narrate the entire story. Give reasons why the relationship is not going to work anymore between both of you. Never play blame game during the break up discussion. It won’t help.
Control your emotions-
It’s a very emotional state that you may have to go through when breaking up with the person you lived, shared all the happiest moments of your life. The early stage of break up is the hardest time and sometimes could be devastating. So, try to control all your emotions and do not think about such sad moments. Get back your own life again.
Now that you are free from your partner and alone, try spending more time and energy on yourself. Give more time to your interests and hobbies. Have a high self-esteem for yourself. Open yourself to a new relationship. Avoid meeting up your ex-partner. Do not live regretting yourself especially the decision of breaking up with your partner. Feel positive towards your life and be ready to find a better person who might end up being the actual soul mate that you have been waiting all your life.
"Overcome the break-up blues and Move On!
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